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Written by Erik J. Michaels

Thursday, 13 March 2008

The list of things that can happen to harm one's relationship is staggering, but probably the most unbelievable thing about it is that nearly everything that regularly causes couples to break up is, simply put, STUPID. At least 95% of relationship issues are totally avoidable with a little common sense, loyalty, and integrity, and you can see that by looking at the following 5 most common culprits for relationship death.

by ErikJ.Michaels

1) Infidelity. Also known as CHEATING on your partner. Boys and girls, if you can't seem to fully comprehend the idea that sleeping around is a BAD thing to do that can emotionally destroy your partner...you deserve to be alone, I just feel bad for the person who loved you and got hurt because of it. The rules are simple: don't cheat. When you commit to a relationship with someone, that means everyone else becomes OFF-LIMITS. Honestly, there's no reason you should even want to breach your partner's trust in you...not if you have any shred of human decency.

2) Lack of even a smidgeon of trust in your partner. Ladies are stereotyped as being the worst with this, but guys are just as bad sometimes. People, your partner is not going to go rambling around and getting into trouble with members of the opposite sex if you leave him or her alone for fifteen minutes. Endless phone calls to check in on your partner, harassment as to where he or she has been the instant he/she gets in the door...it can be funny in the movies, but in real life it's exhausting and claustrophobic. If you can't trust your partner, you shouldn't be in a relationship with him or her. Lay off.

3) Lack of emotional support. Everybody has feelings, regardless of whether or not they like to advertise them. The one person we'd rightfully expect to honor and pay attention to those feelings is our partner. When the person you love doesn't consider or pay any attention to how you feel, it really hurts! I know TV has made it out to be that women are the only ones ever upset because their men aren't emotionally sensitive, but guys do have feelings as well. Don't neglect your partner's feelings, it's just needless hurt.

4) Allowing fights and lovers' quarrels to come outside their place in a relationship. Every time two people are put together in trying conditions for any period of time, a little conflict is going to occur. It's healthy, it's natural...it gets the air cleared and enlightens us as to what's making our partners unhappy, and by knowing it we can fix it. What you DON'T want is to turn a fight into a war where cruel things are slung about, feelings are hurt, and relationships are unraveled. Accept that there will be fights, but don't let them break you two apart...excessive conflict and stress ruins a lot of relationships, so don't let yours be one of them.

5) Lack of "zest" in a relationship. I'm not talking about craziness in the bedroom here, I'm talking about enjoying each other and the time you spend together, keeping things active and loving your lives together. Boredom and lack of spontanaeity is a deadly threat to relationships that's been on the uptrend lately, and nothing makes me sadder than when I hear of a couple that was beautiful for each other and loved each other deeply just kind of dissolving because there wasn't much there anymore. Stay creative with your love, and make every day you're with your partner as much of a blessing as it should be.

These are the five top "destroyers" of relationships...and most of them should never have a chance to ruin anybody's relationship because they're just ridiculous. Respectively, each one of these problems could be easily avoided by having just a little loyalty, trust, consideration, coolness of mind, and dedication! These are things I'd expect any happy couple to have...without them you'll be lonely and in pain, as will the person you love.

Next time one of these situations threatens to pop up, stop and ask yourself if whatever outburst or lapse you're considering giving in to is worth the hurt and loneliness it could easily bring to both of you. If you like being miserable and alone, and wish the same on the one you love...go right ahead. If not...well, the choice is pretty obvious...isn't it?

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