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Written by Sarah Love

Wednesday, 26 March 2008

by SarahLove

Body language is crucial to attraction. Eye contact, being a part of body language, is often overlooked though, as a substantial parcel of body language. There is a lot more to flirting and sending the right message than batting a pretty eyelash, but the idea is right!

In order to send out the right kind of communication with eye contact, it is essential to hold the person's gaze for longer than they are looking at you. In other words - it's not a stare down, but you want to be the last to look away. It's a very subtle thing, but also very potent.

Try it. The next man who you see that you find attractive, hold his gaze when he looks at you. Imagine yourself blowing a kiss with your eyes. Let him drop the eye contact first. This can be REALLY uncomfortable, even counterintuitive, for some women. But if you want to use your eyes to spark attraction, you need to do it, and do it well.

If you find it difficult - you are not alone! Most women, including myself, have found it difficult to do at first. The thing is - different is GOOD in attraction. If something catches your curiosity - it is more than likely that the thing is DIFFERENT than the things around it. See where I am going with this?

You should practice this before you really try it out though. Try going to the supermarket, and looking directly into the eyes of every man you see. Look at him until he looks away. You do not need to try to look menacing or "powerful" in any way - just look at him until he drops eye contact first. Do this until it becomes second nature.

Remember, though, you are not trying to be more POWERFUL than he is, or stare him down like some kind of creepy freak. So try to keep it natural, just direct. If you are talking to a guy - look away every once in a while - that's fine. Just show him from the start that you are not intimidated by him or unsure of yourself.

If the dialogue continues and you've made some good eye contact, try then breaking the eye contact by glancing away and possibly chatting with someone else or letting yourself be diverted by something else. Then, look back at him after a short while. This "start and stop" interplay is very exhilarating for men, and gives them time to watch you and want your attention again.

Once you have gone on to a first date, or maybe going for a cup of coffee or something, change things around a bit and DON'T look directly at him all that much. Instead, act chummy, joke around and have fun, not acting too serious. This will get him thinking about what he can do to get your attention, giving him more of the "chase" that men love.

This type of play will keep him attracted and will keep him thinking about what he can do to keep your attention focused on him. It will also keep him guessing - which makes life a lot more interesting for the man, and ultimately, for you!

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