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Dating Advice for Men - Learn to Cancel Proof Your Dates!

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Written by Chris Benjamin

Thursday, 03 April 2008

by ChrisBenjamin

I hate flakes. And I am not talking about the kind that Head and Shoulders takes care of. I mean the people who cancel on your plans like 2 hours before you are supposed to go meet them. You finally got the nerve up to ask her out, you worked out the date, and then she flakes! Argh!

So is there anything you can DO about it? Well, as a matter of fact, there is. The thing is, most guys don't know this, and this is one of the FUNDAMENTALS of dating advice - how to AVOID the flake! So let's talk about how.

The first thing you can do to PREVENT the flake before it happens is to tell her - flat as a pancake - that you HATE flakes. Tell her that you are a busy guy and that if she really has no intention of being there to just not make the plans, because your time is valuable.

Many men are too intimidated to say something like that. Or they think it is giving the woman an "out" and that if given a chance to run, she will take it. And it might happen. BUT - I would SO much rather have a girl flake on me at that stage than right before the date, wouldn't you?

Saying this to a woman, though, is actually saying much MORE than "I hate flakes". What it is really saying to her underneath is that you value your OWN time, yourself, and if she is not going to do the same then walk away now. That tells her you have a high status, and that is attractive to women.

So then, on the day of the date, if a woman actually calls you and DOES flake on you - now is the time to use a little "Cocky Comedy" on her. Tell her, "Well thanks a lot for the NOTICE! When are you going to make this up to me?"

So here you have a great chance to bust her balls a little bit. Keep in mind, though, using Cocky Comedy, you have to keep it light enough to NOT let her think you are hurt in any way, or you will lower your Alpha-Male status in her eyes, which is a killer for attraction.

One time I even heard David Deangelo say that a great way to prevent the "flake" is to BE the flake! He said that if YOU flake on her first, but then immediately set up another date when you call her - this will really up the anticipation on her end, and almost guarantee that she WILL be there for the second "date". Give it a shot sometime.

Most of the time, your problems with women are created because of your own WUSSY behavior. I mean, you are never going to get to the point where you NEVER have trouble again. You may as well say that it's never going to rain again. But you CAN get to the point where you are on the ball and actually preventing most of the problems before they happen!

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