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Dating Tips - If You Want to Catch Him - Don't Let Him Catch You!

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Written by Sarah Love

Tuesday, 01 April 2008

by SarahLove

Dating, boiled down, is a question of being able to make someone want something. How to make someone want something is not something we often think about, however, it is something we NEED to think about if you really want to make attraction WORK for you.

Most of us are not born salespeople. If we want someone to want something, we don't sit there and tell someone how awesome it is, convincing them that they need it. You don't offer it to them for free, certainly, because you know how much you could "get out of it".

What makes an individual place value on an item most of the time is rarity. Think about a precious gem for instance. Emeralds, rubies, diamonds - they cost so much because they are not easily accessible. They must be looked for, found, dug up. Because of that, they are highly valued and treasured. I, for one, want to be a diamond!

The fact is, you ARE a diamond. In order to keep yourself attractive and interesting to men, you have to think of yourself as valuable, rare and sought after. Think about it in terms of some precious item that you just HAD to have. Once you get it - you think it's awesome for a few days, and then over time, it begins to lose interest. You have been satisfied; therefore, you are not making an EFFORT anymore to get it.

Once the anticipation is gone, unless there is true substance to a relationship, the attraction fades as well. If you think about this in terms of a relationship with a man, if you let him catch you before the relationship has really begun, then the attraction will soon perish as well.

So what you need to do to create attraction for your date is to think of yourself as a wild animal, unable to be captured. Most women, though, WANT to be captured! As funny as that sounds, to many women, the idea of being caught and "tamed" is sexy and alluring - they like the idea of the strength that represents for a man. However - if you want to keep HIM attracted, you need to lead him on a merry chase.

So how do you DO this? Well, start with the small things. First and foremost - don't have SEX with him until you are SURE a relationship has developed. Keep in mind that for a man - having sex does not mean he loves you or is in a "relationship" with you by any means. So do not give it up until you have what you want from him.

Next, try to leave him wanting more with the little things. The next time you and he are really having a great conversation, end it a little early. Don't wait until it naturally tapers off, cut it off before that. This way, he will be left wanting more - thinking about you and your connection, and anticipating talking to you again.

Another thing that you can do is to not be available when calls. Wait a couple hours to call him back, or if you can stand it, until the next day. You can even carry that over to when he asks you for date. Don't settle for the first date he tells you. If he suggests you go out on Thursday, tell him y9ou are busy that night, but how about Saturday instead? Do you see what I mean here?

Always keep in the back of your mind that scarcity creates value with anything, and the same is certainly true with dating and relationships. Make yourself more valuable by being a little stingy with your company at times and you will keep him coming back for more. Remember, too, that this same tactic can be used in relationships to maintain your natural attraction levels.

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