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Going Out Alone Does Not Mean Going HOME Alone!

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Written by Chris Benjamin

Saturday, 22 March 2008

by ChrisBenjamin

Going out on a Friday night alone may not seem like a great way to pick up women. In fact, many people equate being alone with being LONELY - which is not necessarily true. Not every person who goes out alone does it because they have no other friends.

In actuality - hitting the bars and clubs by yourself can be a GREAT way to pick up women. For the men who can pull it off - it can really increase your pickup. I will tell you why

The first reason is like learning to swim by being thrown in the lake. When you go out alone, you very quickly learn to overcome your natural pre-disposition to paying attention to what other people think. You have to have the stamina to BE the lone wolf, the confidence and the self-assurance. People notice this very quickly - especially women.

Second reason - you have no "buddy factor" to worry about. You do not have to worry about your friends embarrassing you, driving off a potential date - or worse - picking up your potential date, or what time they have to be home. You can go wherever you choose, leave when you choose and do what you choose.

Reason three is perhaps the most important reason. Say a beautiful woman asks you who you are at the bar with. This provides a great opportunity to show her your confidence and your cocky/funny attitude. You can reply to her in a confident and secure way, telling her, "I am here by myself - I don't need a babysitter in order to have a great time!"

In order to have this be effective, though, you have truly got to LIVE the confident, secure lifestyle of the alpha-male. Women can see through a faade, so you better have that self-assurance to back it up.

So - if you want to take this interaction to the next level, and REALLY peak her attraction when she asks who are you there with - you turn the question around. You say, "I'm here with you." So she will giggle a little and say, "OK, really, who are you here with?" At which point you say to her, "Man, I only met you 60 seconds ago and already you're trying to meet my friends? By the end of the week you're going to be over at my mom's house talking about our wedding. Slow down!"

Behind this little act, what you are showing her is that you are strong, confident, and NOT ruled by other people. AND - you are maybe just a LITTLE out of her "bracket" as far as status goes - she will have to work to get your interest. This is how cocky and funny works - using humor to be a "bad boy", charming, funny, and keeping her on her toes which will in turn, keep her coming back for more.

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