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How to Get Your Ex On The Phone |
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Written by Erik J. Michaels
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Wednesday, 04 June 2008 |
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It can seem really difficult to get your ex to just talk to you, much less get him back. Fortunately, there are relatively easy ways to do both. Easiest is just getting him to return your calls, and once that is done you have won half the battle! Here is how you can go about getting him on the phone.
by ErikJ.Michaels
It can seem really difficult to get your ex to just talk to you, much less get him back. Fortunately, there are relatively easy ways to do both. Easiest is just getting him to return your calls, and once that is done you have won half the battle! Here is how you can go about getting him on the phone.
Before we get too into it, here is a short list of some of the things you really do NOT want to let yourself fall into the trap of doing. It is not the end of the world if you already have done one or more of these things, but since it can make things a fair bit harder you should try to avoid finding yourself in a situation where you are:
--Desperately begging him to come back to you is never an effective way to do it. This relies on getting your ex to pity you, and one thing you don't want right now is that kind of weakened position. Even in the 1-in-1000 chance that it gets you together, a relationship founded on pity will NOT hold out.
--Making it out to be a life-and-death deal if he does not call you back. The Emergency is completely ineffective and just makes you look like a desperate drama queen. He knows it is not an emergency, so don't act like it is one.
--Leaving an hour-long message on his voicemail confessing your every emotion like the guy in a romance movie who messed up with his girl and somehow manages to make it all better with one tear-jerking speech. This only works in the movies, and in real life your ex rarely even listens to the whole thing. It is excessive drama, and it gets you nowhere...even if you really feel everything you're saying.
You can probably see the link in all those things you need to avoid: excessive drama. Making this situation into a romance movie is just setting yourself up for disappointment. If you want to get him back in real life, you need to use the two oldest and most powerful motivators in human nature: curiosity and self-interest.
Try something along the lines of:
-Hey, I really wanted to thank you...what you did turned my life around. I would appreciate it if you would please call me back, because I would really like to thank you in person.-
This sort of phrasing makes your ex curious just what it was he helped you with, and makes the call seem less threatening or stressful. It doesn't feel like an attempt to convince him to come back, and it also has some intrigue ...he would have a hard time coming up with a reason NOT to call.
But before you go ANY FURTHER, STOP. When he calls you, if you do not have an underlying plan or strategy for getting him back, you could completely ruin your chances at rebuilding your relationship. DO NOT RISK THIS.
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