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Written by Marie Wilson

Thursday, 27 March 2008

by MarieWilson

Sometimes guys get nervous about "how to be romantic". We try to cover it up and those of us that are "slick" do a good job of covering it up. But even the most suave and romantic guy still gets nervous about exactly how to show romance to a girl that he really wants to sweep off her feet. Maybe because each gender has its own language and while girls seem to be born with romantic thoughts, guys have to learn them.

The good news is that if other guys have learned how to say just the right things to the girl they adore, you and I can too. It's just a matter of knowing the secret of romance and getting prepared for when the moment comes. And the fact that you are reading this article shows that you are indeed getting ready.

First, think about the last romantic movie you saw. You were probably with your girl and the sweet talking guy on the screen always knew what to say to make the girl want to be all his. That movie was just an example of the many ways we have romantic thoughts and words around us all the time in movies, on TV shows and even on the romantic cards you buy for her. So to start building your list of romantic statements to learn from by writing down and learning some of the best lines from these the movies, poetry and other sources. You can even put them on cards so you can have a few with you on a date should the right moment come along.

Well, there is no harm in doing a little homework. After all, if you don't walk around all day thinking lines that would fit in a romantic song, don't be too hard on yourself. Most guys need to shift gears to think of how to express the feelings we have inside for the girls we adore. And reading romantic poems and collecting your favorite lines will give you ideas on how to empress those thoughts.

But there is a "trick" to how to say just the right thing to your girl. It has to be natural and it has to be from your heart. Don't just show up at the door of your next date, produce your three by five card and read the refrain from the last song you saw bring tears to her eyes. That would be awkward and, well, phony. And being phony is actually quite a bit worse than not saying anything romantic at all.

Genuine romantic words that really work start with a romantic feeling you have inside you. Then you simply use some of the ways of speaking you have learned to put syllables around those feelings. When the words come out that express what you really feel about her, they may not be sonnets of Shakespeare. But they will be your real feelings and she will know that and love you for it.

Girls have a natural instinct for when you are being for real with them. So by expressing very real feelings even in your own simple words, you will say the right thing and she will know that. And she will feel inspired to say what is in her heart for you as well.

Now its gong to take some presence of mind when you know the time is right and you must muster the courage to let that love out from inside you. For girls romance is about love and sweetness but many times it takes a real man with some real guts to tell her how you feel. But think how many times the thought was in your head like "I never want this date to end." You know it has been here. But you cover it up because guys are just as good at hiding our feelings as girls are about expressing theirs. So the transition you must make is not to push down that romantic thought but to build on it and then finally let it out.

It might be as you cuddle watching sunset and inside you feel that you want that moment to last forever. You will have to build a superhighway between the feeling of that emotion and the saying of it. But once that feeling comes out of your mouth, in words that you use and phrases that are natural to you, they will go right to the heart of your girl.

So instead of worrying only about romantic words that you hear other lovers say in movies and songs, start looking inside. You are having romantic feelings already, even if you have not spoken them to your sweetheart. By learning to let them come out when they happen, you will become the kind of guy who knows how to "sweet talk" your girl, not with phony borrowed phrases but with words of true love, feeling and romance.

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