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When All You Date Are Jerks: What to Do

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Written by Sara Musfeldt

Tuesday, 22 April 2008

by SaraMusfeldt

We've all got dating patterns and they frustrate all of us the same. You ask yourself, why do I always end up dating the same guy? Why does every boyfriend remind me of my dad? How come the only type of guy that approaches me has the really spiky hair?

You date the same type of guy because you continue to be the same type of person. If you don't want to date a jerk, then you need to discover whatever it is about you that attracts them and then change it.

Now don't get me wrong, people are just big, huge jerks sometimes. But we're not talking about them. We're talking about you. Here are three steps you need to follow to stop your jerk-dating pattern.

Ask a Friend: First Step

If more than once you've dated the same type of loser, go to your most honest friend and ask why they think that is. Really listen to what they tell you.

Second Step: Be Single

For awhile you need to decide to be single. You are truly single during this time so date yourself. Get to know what it is that makes you and learn what makes you tick. Think about what you need to be happy and what it is you're really looking for. Figure it out and once you do, write it down, keep it in your bag, and read it every day.

Third Step: Date the Antithesis

Do yourself a favor and date someone that is nothing like your ex, when you are ready. So seek someone that is different; get a taste for what is out there. You might be surprised to find that you connect with all kinds of people-even if you don't think they're your "type."

You won't date any more jerks with time and self-reflection. Admitting you have a problem is the first, like all challenges we face.

About the Author:

Author Sara Musfeldt's website DatingTales.net has many dating stories, and she also provides an guide to online dating full of online dating tips.