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Written by Dr. Noel Swanson..

Friday, 28 March 2008

by Dr.NoelSwanson..

Kids learn from example; and if you can involve your children in the household activities, you gain on several counts: they share your burden of work; they get your time and attention; and they learn to work as a team. The best parenting advice is to work together in raising your children and establishing child discipline. Children are children; and whether they are your own or your spouse's kids from a previous relationship, it is the duty of the two people who make up their parents to work together to form their children's discipline plan.

A common ploy of children's behavior is to ask a parent for something, either an item or an activity. If the answer is not desirable, they turn around and go to the other parent. This can lead to issues when the parents come together and realize each gave a different answer for the activity. The parents are now faced with a serious problem.

It is very important for parents to work together for the welfare and stability of a home. Working together is a valuable parenting skill that parents must learn and practice. The first thing you as parents should do is to sit down and have a meeting, and work out a system that works for you.

You can divide the activities between you; that is the most practical and effective team work. After all, you can't agree on everything, but if you divide the areas of activity, each has the freedom to carry it out to the best of their ability. For example, one parent can handle outdoor activities while the other handles indoor activities..

Remember, children should see their parents as one unit working together in harmony. They must know that they have to seek the approval of both parents in each situation. This arrangement works very well where both parents are available.

No matter which method you decide to use for making decisions, all parents need to agree on the rules and steps to follow. Once you've decided, then go to your children and explain the situation.

Letting your children know that you work together as a team is important. If they are old enough to understand the situation, it will work to deter future parent playing. If they are not old enough to understand, establishing this routine and foundation of parenting will prevent parent playing from occurring.

Working together has much greater benefits than just stopping children from parent playing. After all, parenting is not only about going to the park or watching TV. You need to take decisions on what type and kind of education they have to be given? Which religion or faith a child should be brought up in? What type of child disciplinary measures should be taken? All of these questions and many more need to be addressed together as a team, and as they grow up, they should become a part of the team.

About the Author:

Dr. Noel Swanson specializes in helping parents with child behavior problems. To tap into his expert parenting advice go to his website and check out his hugely popular GOOD CHILD Guide manual, packed full of practical parenting advice.